A question of should or not

Newbie Posts : 47 Join date : 2008-04-26

Heres a question for you. Say you were to be married, and your partner was sleeping with someone else and you found them. You broke up after a maybe year and a half relationship, how long would you say to wait to find someone else?

I personally say a weak.

Subject: Re: A question of should or not Sun Apr 27, 2008 5:18 am

I wouldn't put a time frame on it. You find someone else when you're ready and when you find someone suitable. If that's a day, well good for them, if it's a year, then at least you know you're not rushing into things and taking them at your own pace.

Newbie Posts : 47 Join date : 2008-04-26

Well true, it is all a matter of how long it takes you to recover.

Subject: Re: A question of should or not Sun Apr 27, 2008 6:35 am

Well, while I've never been close to marriage, my ex apparently only took a week or two to recover. I,, however.. took quite a bit longer. It depends on the person, but also, how you want to appear to an ex. While one may not care much, it will leave some sort of message if it takes you but a few days to find somebody else.

Still, to recover/find someone else, I'd say.. a month? Then again, I myself get so very emotionally involved in things.

Subject: Re: A question of should or not Sun Apr 27, 2008 8:30 am

The time is takes for someone to, as you say recover, from a situation lke that depends on how quickly they decide to move on. People's hearts mend at different speeds and even if, say three days after they broke up with someone then found someone else and felt comfertable enough to start a relationship, it just means that their heart mended faster because they moved on so they were not held back by the past.

Trust me, I know. I've been a situation like that. A little different but same nonetheless.

Newbie Posts : 4 Join date : 2008-04-28

As long as till you're fine.

Newbie Posts : 33 Join date : 2008-04-28

If I was ready the next day, and found someone -it would be the next day.

I don't really attach myself emotionally to anyone so it wouldn't take very long -esp if we broke up because she fucked around on me.